Why WOMEN Cheat
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Men and women are so different, women feel things, men have to see things, women use reason, intuition, and emotion, men use excuses, opportunity, and their impulses. Women are sensitive, yet, we can take whatever men give us and act like it doesn't bother us, and before you know it... we seek revenge! Sure, we can be manipulative, conniving, as we use sex and guilt as weapons of mass destruction, but you would never know this by looking at us, wearing high heels, make up and a smile. Men have their own weapons, they can be cold, careless, and hold on tightly to their double standards. Although most would argue that they would never take a guy back after he has cheated, most women have. It's how they handled the situation that will surprise you.
TOP 10 REASONS WHY WOMEN CHEAT
10. The relationship isn't THAT serious. In the beginning, you may find yourself in a brand new relationship, you're just dating but you really like the guy but you aren't quite sure if you want to be exclusive, men, you better not take too long to figure it out and seal the deal. While you're out there dating or talking to a couple of other girls to make sure she's the right one for you, she could be doing the same thing! Unfortunately for you, women get hit on almost everyday, it could just be for sex or whatever the circumstance, but we get attention out there no matter what we look like-there is always someone who is willing to get in our pants. Fortunately, we have been turning men down since the beginning of time, so unlike you, the predator, we are the type of prey that can say NO and walk away. When you think you are not quite ready to settle down as you go from one woman to the next, you are really wasting time on the girls you don't really like instead of investing time in the one you really want. If you don't seal the deal while she's really into you, you just might blow it, and she knows it!
9. They are bored in the relationship. When women get bored with their man they may seek comfort in the arms of a stranger or an old familiar flame. They get bored when the sparks no longer fly, they are stuck in a routine at home or in the relationship, and if their man isn't paying attention to them or they aren't having anymore fun together. Women need romance, dancing, dinners, spontaneous getaways, anything that will keep them guessing and make them feel special. The longer you leave gaps in between the romance, some other guy may be fillin gin for you. When the man she loves is spending too much time and attention on himself or his other interests, it is a complete turn-off for women because we want to be the center of his world, and when we aren't, we know that someone else will place us on a peddle stool. You've seen the chick flicks guys, how much more do we need to spell it out for you?!
8. They aren't getting what they want out of the relationship. Most women want a place to call home, especially a house, they want a marriage or some type of commitment, and eventually, they want to start a family. If they have been in a long term relationship and nothing seems to be materializing from it, they will consider straying if they haven't already. Women need to know their place in your life, we want to know that you are in it to give them that happily ever after, and if you don't step it up, then you need to proceed with caution. It isn't about sex, it's about being with a man that is ready to GROW UP and take the relationship to the next level. No matter what we say, we need the ring, the piece of paper, the contract, the whole sha-bang! We don't want to be your baby mama, but if that's what it takes to get you to commit, then some women will take that route and make you miserable for the rest of your life, all because... you didn't give her want she wants or needs in the relationship. Remember guys, there will always be someone else out there that will promise her the world if you aren't already giving it to her.
7. When he has too much baggage. Psycho ex girlfriends, baby mama drama, ex-wives with too much control, a meddling mother, over-protective siblings, bratty kids and friends that don't know when to go home, will take their toll on a woman. There is nothing more unattractive then a man that has too much baggage. Women will begin to take a look at their options out there no matter how nice or great of a guy her man is. A man can spoil her rotten, treat her with love and respect, but if his mama always has something to say, if his parents drop by unannounced, or are rude when her man isn't around, she will begin to resent the number one woman in your life, her arch-enemy... Yo' MAMA! If your ex, baby mama, or ex-wife causes too many problems in your relationship, you better do whatever you can to keep her because that is some bull-stuff that she will only take for so long. What's worse is if you can't control your own kids, that is also a major turn off because she wants you to be the MAN, not the doormat! When your friends come over too much or stay too long, you're not doing couples activities and you're all just sitting around playing video games, that will make you all look like a high school boy instead of the man she knows you can be. If you seem to be fighting about other people in your lives, that is definitely a red flag that she is not happy, so schedule time with your friends or family and let her go do whatever she likes to do then meet up latter. Whatever you do, don't keep repeating the same thing over and over when she tells you she doesn't like something (or someone) take care of the problem like a man, don't keep irritating her. When you really love someone, you will make the simple effort to make little changes for the benefit of the relationship; its all about compromise. If a man has too much baggage, there will be a drama free man out there just waiting for a chance to be with her, especially if she isn't carrying much baggage of her own.
6. They won't leave something for nothing. When you're just not getting along and you seem to be fighting a lot, fellas beware! Most women won't have a clean break because we need to "get under someone new, to get over someone old." That's right, this is something even our mothers and grandmothers know now days! That is why we always tend to have a "rebound guy," you know, the guy after the serious long-term relationship, before the string of one night stands and mini-relationships that will eventually lead to the new and improved relationship with someone better then you. Don't be mistaken, women are a lot more slick then we have been given credit for, and you won't even see it coming. By the time you're ready to "work things out" she may be on to bigger and better things, so if you know you love her and want to be with her, you better fix the problems before you get replaced. We think about our feelings and emotions a lot before we stray or start looking for the rebound guy, by the time we act on it, we have made up our minds and moved on. All you need to know is that the plan was well thought out before it was executed.
5. Ok, sometimes it is about the SEX. If a girl is having trouble climaxing, no matter how great of a guy you are, or if you have a mortgage, lease or kids together, she just might stray, depending on how bad it is and how much she really loves you. You could be rich, offer her everything under the sun, but if you can't deliver the kind of lovin' she needs, you're headed for trouble, because there is an easy remedy to cure that little problem. You will find that more and more women will have a Cha-cha, a guy they can call on whenever, wherever, to take care of their sexual appetite. Unlike a booty call, a Cha-cha knows you're in a relationship, he might be in one too, but he is readily awaiting her number appearing on the Caller ID of his cell phone. He is the guy that will give her presents AND orgasms, but he never calls her, she calls him. Men have their "old reliables" that they call when they are having a dry spell, women do too, but the Cha-cha is a special man that takes care of her wants and needs in different ways then a booty call and an old reliable. He is also there when you aren't acting right, he will console her after a fight, even if she doesn't mention a word about it, and he is there if she hasn't lined him up already, if you are having any of the issues from 6-10 in addition to the bad sex. Women have sexual and emotional needs that require your attention and if you aren't giving it to them, someone else will without a doubt!
4. When things start to go sour. Let's face it, women need a lot of attention, we have feelings and emotions that run deeper then any of the seven seas in the whole wide world. If you forget her birthday, an anniversary, or any other special day or if you skimp out on the other important days like Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Christmas, New Years Eve or WHATEVER, she will feel unappreciated and that is a major red-light danger zone! If you are so caught up and busy doing whatever it is that you do, even if you are working a lot to pay bills and what not, at the very least... you better remember the days that count! The rule of thumb here is that you need to show your appreciation to her, show her how special she is and how much she means to you. Say thank you in little ways, because every woman will tell you, "it's the little things that count." The reason the little things count is because they all add up to one big thing, whether or not you appreciate her enough. If she baby's you when you're sick, packs your lunches, makes you dinner every night, if she cuts your hair, or makes you feel special by throwing you a surprise party, or gets you little thoughtful gifts here and there, no matter what the occasion, she is doing her best to make you feel special, loved and appreciated. We will never say it out loud, but we're expecting you to do it for us too. Picking up some flowers "just because" is a great way to show her, taking her out for a romantic dinner will also do the trick, getting her a card to say you're sorry, or giving her a little something because you love her, will always work wonders. If not, there is always some guy out there that will give her the works and charm those panties off by sweeping her off her feet.
3. If the relationship gets physical, in a bad way. Don't think that you could ever completely control a woman. If you try to use scare tactics, if you hit her, beat her up, or threaten her, she can and will stray at some point, it is just a matter of when. If you are verbally or emotionally abusive, we may play the victim card but every woman can be pushed to her breaking point until enough is enough. There are way more nice guys then evil ones out there and if you didn't know this already, we have been trained to await our night in shining armor, thanks to Disney. You can beat us to the ground and we will pick ourselves up because even though we love you and you hurt us in anyway, there is always another guy waiting to save that damsel in distress. We all know how much women talk, we talk about everyone and everything, so if she's with friends or at work spilling her guts out to someone else, anywhere else, the other women will be more then willing to set her up with someone great that they know, and most guys would love to play the part of the hero.
2. When she doesn't come first in your life. If you put other people before her then she will eventually stray and find herself in bed with a guy that will put her first. A woman has to feel like she is your number one priority outside of your real responsibilities like work or school, since women can be considered your partner, she needs to be treated as such, and more. When you're spending more time or money on your Mom, or anyone else other then her, you will have some problems. If you spend too much time at work and not enough time on her, there will be a big fight around the corner. I know it sounds selfish, but that is just the way we are. Think about it, when a man has a little girl, he is over protective of her, he spoils her, and she is his princess forever. When Dad is around, she is on her best behavior because she knows that if she plays her cards right, she can get whatever she wants from him... Mom on the other hand, is different. Mothers and daughters have a different relationship, they teach us all the domestic knowledge we need to be a wife and mother, cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, etc. Usually, the father will discipline, the kids, but he is always easier on his little girl then on his boys. There are Daddy's girls, and Mama's boys, there is a method to that madness. You see, mothers make it difficult for any woman to measure up because most guys want a girl kind of like his mom, in a way, and women want a strong, providing, generous man, like her daddy. Women just want a guy to make her feel like a princess, so if you've got other things on that peddle stool, you better make room for her because if she isn't your number one, she will belong to someone else in no time. It's not just about people either, it is also habits and addicitions, like drugs or video games, if you spend more time on the Playstation III or getting high, she will find a more mature man that will place that crown on her head and slip on that glass slipper.
1. Whatever you can do, we can do it better. If you have cheated on us and we take you back, you better be on your toes every minute of every day! Don't think you are in the clear just because she forgave you, you better watch how she interacts with your brother, your cousins, your best friends, co- workers, and anyone with a penis. She will go for the jugular fellas, and I am not playing! If you break her heart and she gives you a second chance, she is probably going to start plotting the biggest, heart-breaking performance of her life. Just when you think it's all water under the bridge, you will find your heart ripped out, stomped on and spit on, under that bridge. Every woman handles it differently, she will either go for someone close to you, or she will slowly but surely, be with someone else behind your back, whether you find out about it or not is up to her. She may take you back, all the while knowing that she has slept with someone else, because in the back of her mind, "what you don't know won't hurt." Trust me fellas, she will smile in your face and act like everything is normal, but behind that grin lies the remnants of a broken heart plotting away vengeance. You see, it is so much easier for a woman to cheat, all we have to do is say "yes". Men love the thrill of the chase, they are natural predators, and once they have a piece of the pie, they are done with it because the thrill of the chase is over. If they get caught it's because they weren't doing it right, they got sloppy, and weren't paying attention. Women on the other hand, are very detail oriented, if she gets caught, she probably wanted to. Women will sleep with a guy even if he has a significant other, we are competitive that way. If the girl you cheated on knew about your woman, she was in it for the competition, you really mean nothing to her; sorry guys. Women always think they are better then other women, even sisters are rivals, but you are the fool that gets caught in the middle. If you don't end up with one of the two, you will end up alone, because a woman doesn't really want the guy that cheats on his chick with her because he will probably do it to her too. The woman who got cheated on will either take you back and get you back to even the score, or she will not have anything to do with you. It's all a game, and most of the time... it's the men that play the fools.
I know this all sounds horrible, and you probably think that women aren't like that, but if you really believe that then you are naive. Women are not nice when you hurt them or don't treat them the way they deserve to be treated. They will strike when you least expect it, she will hurt you in away you never thought possible, and if she did it all because of some thing you did or failed to do, she will do it without a single regret. A woman scorned will do the impossible and the unbelievable; you will not be prepared for the atomic bomb she will drop on you. It could be days, weeks, months, years, but she knows she is in control and she will take her time to get you back. Let's go back to the beginning, remember how Eve convinced Adam to eat that apple? Well, that's the kind of power we have over men. Don't think for a moment, that you are special, men are disposable, sad but true. Anything you won't do for us, someone else will be more then willing to step up and take care of us, and that's the guy that gets the trophy wife. The self-absorbed, naive man, is still a boy to us, and what we really want, is a MAN. A woman will love you whole heartedly if you play your cards right, but if you don't, she will call your bluff and walk away with the pot, take your pride with her, and leave you all alone to figure out how the heck she pulled it off.
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I hear what your saying, this was great reading, and true. Great hub.
you are defenitely right! =)
I think the artical is interesting, but i understood both sides of men and women. If women are out with a cha cha, that is a game being played and if attention isnt given that also is a game. Anything that draws attention to one self is not healthy at all. Pride is the word, and that is the root and problem i see from both male and female. Honesty, commitment, Fervent Love, Respect, and putting your cards on the table. That is talking about your darkest areas of your past and releasing them to each other in truth. Our past will destroy our future if e do not deal with it, it has nothing to do with the man or that women not having chemestry and not working out, it all comes down to our past of hurts, resentments, offenses, and un forgiveness to family and old friends we trusted who have destroyed the inosense of our true loving heart. Feel free to email at deliveranceinhim@yahoo.com Lee
Thanks for stopping by Lee :-)
So why not get rid of the marriage institution. It seems it does not work. Let men chase and women collect. I for one thing women are there for my pleasure, not for relationship. I don't mind If I am taken advantage of every now and then but all I need is get laid. So I chase women, I don't mind rejections, I trigger emotions in women to kindle sexual states, I do the did and make my exit.
Thank you all for reading and posting comments on my hub, I sincerely appreciate your input. You have all brought up interesting points of view and they are ALL great.
Relationships are hard, and even more so when they are not fulfilling your needs. It has been my experience that a woman will be much more faithful to her mate until things start to change and their needs are not met in the relationship and that is when they stray. Men, on the other hand, are not like that, they will stary from beginning to end with out any reasoning at all. Why is that? Any advice you would like to offer would be awesome because women really wanna know! Are you all just tin men without a heart?
You forget the 11th reason: the woman is unable to commit because she was sexually abused as a child. It's easy to blame the man for a bad decision, but there are many times when the man can do everything in his power but the woman is so damaged that she is unable to maintain a committed relationship. This is a two way street.
Nice hub VegaLove, you do a good job pointing out what most men don't realise... women cheat just as much as men. I also think that cheating is a lot more "justifiable" in our society now... or at least talked about more. Personally I think this is a good thing in it's own weird way... people are more comfortable going after what they really want rather than settling for something substandard.
Do I think feelings should be considered... yes... but let's face it... we live in an imperfect world and people are always going to get hurt whether they just got dumped or cheated on. Life is tough... that's what makes it so much fun :)
To answer your question about why men stray more often I would say it's insecurity. Like you say, women believe they can control men and this is true for 99% of "men" in the world. So a man needs that validation from as many women as possible that he is attractive yada yada yada.
It also goes back to the hunter mentality. Men enjoy the thrill of the chase. So women need to keep that thrill going in your relationship.
The "good" news is most men have no confidence about women and when they find one they're happy with they won't jeopardise screwing it up. Then again, some men are just dumbasses... stop dating them ;)
There really are many more fish in the sea and the smart person knows when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em. Captain Cliche over and out!
haha but now you have revealed all to us unsuspecting men, we can now use it against you women to manipulate you! how silly of you! lol
i honestly think things are alot more double-edged than this. men are just as likely to "use" women to get what they want, how often do you find, insecure or broken-hearted girls throwing themselves at guys? this isnt women getting back at someone, its just to make themselves feel better. there are plently of guys just out for a lay, who see these girls as easy targets and are more than ready to pick up the pieces, (well for a few hours at least).
i dont want to offend you, but im guessing your someone who is used to getting most of the things you want? well there are plenty of women out there who will settle for less than what they want, because thats just the way life is.
to answer your question about blokes cheating - i will admit that i have cheated several times in the past but from my mentality the reason are kind of like this:
1. if a bloke isnt that bothered about whether he loses the girl hes with he most likely wont say no to a bit on the side, especially if gettin caught is unlikely - twice the sex, and if you lose out because the woman feels like you not payin enough attention to her then you havent really lost anything. to a bloke (unless love is involved) it is usually about gettin regular sex for the least amount of effort.
2. insecurity - blokes like to feel like they are alpha to other blokes, the more sex they get, the more this pleases their ego and makes them feel like a "real man" or whatever.
3. a combination of hormones and alcohol. although its a poor excuse, the fact is when a woman starts gettin all touchy feely with him, a bloke genuinely has trouble suppressing his desire, just a simple truth really. this is enhanced if he i drunk as it makes people more liberal and less thoughtful. and if hes mainly with his woman for just a laugh and sex, and isnt really in love with her.
dudd - not all women that have been sexually abused, cheat. women are damaged because they cannot get over their past emotionally instead of learning from it & moving on. relationships are like chess, not checkers.
justtyler - i agree with the hunter n the thrill of the chase. in the old days, women waited around for prince charming, now, we aren't afraid to ask men out. some women are just as good at hunting as men are & we are starting to enjoy the thrill of the chase because in the end, men still pick up the bill and buy us things... suckers! lol j/k kinda
marvicus - I'm not offended, I'm delighted. Its nice that after reading my hub you thought of me as "someone who is used to getting most of the things you want." I am flattered. to women, relationships are a head trip, meaning its an emotional thing, sometimes, physical if the man doesn't hit the right spot. when it comes to relationships, men are into the power trip, but watch out, clearly, women are smart enough to play that game too! even the biggest playboy with his big fat ego AND strong sense of security, with all his girls on the side, CAN get played like a fool! hahahahahaa
Thank you all for leaving comments, I appreciate you stopping by!
Vegalove. You have explained something to me that puzzled me. Why my ex after 34 years cheated with a nothing man and left me. She basically totted up every wrong and percieved wrong over the years and eventually took her payback and as you say"A woman scorned will do the impossible and the unbelievable; you will not be prepared for the atomic bomb she will drop on you. It could be days, weeks, months, years, but she knows she is in control and she will take her time to get you back." She broke my heart.
As far as men cheating go most men (not the unfealing predators simply out for notching up a score) are pretty much a sucker when it comes to a sob story and who can resist a pretty, tearful, touchy feely babe as you say "Women will sleep with a guy even if he has a significant other, we are competitive that way"
I have always said "I am married and happy if you want to play, consider it a gym workout or joint aerobics. No strongs, no sentiment" Not one female in my life has consented to that condition.
Great hub. Great insights.
women like the author are the reason why women get the crap kicked out of them, the reason why misogyny is justifiable. really, any woman who identifies with this article deserves to be shot.
The woman who wrote this, as well as the ladies who believe it must keep this in mind: once women hit a certain age, they can no longer play these fun little games,
See, what happens when you live by this kind of advice is that during your 20s, you get used up by the men you think our using.
In your 30s, you're forced to lie to the man you wish to spend your life with about your past skeletons, which fortunate enough for you, you still may be hot enough to keep him around and perhaps even faithful.
But your 40s is the big transition, especially your mid-40s. You are no longer hot, even to most younger men. Your just a used sock with plenty of holes that wishes to be new again. You can sew yourself up with the help of a plastic surgeon (like myself), but you're still old.
However, we men get better with age. Most of us get wiser, sexier and wealthier, which makes us more attractive to the exact women you claim to be in this article. Perhaps we are a "Cha-cha" to some, but thats because we're already married to the older version of you, and now its time to play. We've already got one sewed up at home, and now it's time to try on new socks.
Moral of the story: In the end, we (men) win, and you all just get old (and used). So if you wish to follow this advice, by all means do so. All your doing is making more holes, and digging your own grave.
You're Welcome,
Dr. Martin
sixty - I'm glad I could clear that up for you. Women have a strong desire to use some kind of logic in explaining the reasoning for justifying their actions. Like your ex-wife, most women who cheat will harbor their resentment for a long time until she meets the man she will finally leave you for. No one wants to leave something, for nothing.
carlos - the correct definition for misogynist is: fag. men beat up women because it makes them feel in control of their pathetic existance. any man who commits such actions deserves to get gang raped to death in prison.women like me and those who relate to this article are laughing in the face of men like you who need to disrespect women in hopes that by doing so their testicles will finally descend.
dr. martin - just because women are having as much sex with as many partners as men doesn't make them "used up." when a man has been with 100 women he is a God and the envy of his peers, when a woman does it she is a whore, or worse. when will the double standard end? we have p*ssy power? if eve could get adam toeat that apple, there is NO limit to what we, women, can get you fools to do! i think the source of your discontent about my hub says more about you then it does about me. I can see how upsetting it can be for men to know how easily you can be replaced. if it isn't by another man, it's a woman, or something with batteries. what alternatives do men have? prostitutes? either way, you're still being replaced because that is a business transaction to her. thats why we call you TRICKS. So in reality, WHO IS USING WHO?
THANK YOU for stopping by!
VegaLove,
Lets start with the last of your comments and work our way up, shall we? Prostitution is the oldest profession, for women that is. In the past (and present for some), prostitution was the quickest way for a women to put food on the table, if say, she was abandoned or widowed by her husband. The women called their clients "Johns" and the men called the women, "tricks." Not the other way around.
I see I've struck a nerve, because you are rationalizing your thoughts of disdain. This article says a whole lot about you, your thoughts, your perceptions of relationships, not mine. In psychology, it could be considered "projection." I never found your article upsetting, in fact, I found it hilarious. Why? Because you simply do not understand strong, commited relationships. You believe in "p*ssy power," and yes, there's no denying you do possess that.
There's a story about a man that goes up to a woman and asks her if she would sleep with him for one million dollars. She says yes. Then he asks her if she would sleep with him for five bucks. Offended, she tells him, "What do you think I am?" He says to her, "Well, we've already established what you are, now we're just negotiating price."
So yes, Ms. VegaLove, we have the power of the purse, you have the power of the p*ssy.
However, as I said before, you fail to understand the innerworks of a firmly planted relationship. Love is when I commit myself to another person, and do my best to look out for her interests before mine. Love is a choice, NOT a feeling you get in your pants, or a yearning to somehow capitalize off someone else. I choose to look out for her before myself, and if she feels the same as I do, she should want to do the same for me, and when children come into play, same for them. It's circular. LOVE IS A CHOICE, NOT A FEELING! The sooner you understand this, the better your relationships with everyone will be including your intimate relationships. And once you make the choice, vindication is NEVER an option if by some chance the relationship ceases.
You're right about the double standard, it is an unfortunate cost of living in a male dominated society (make you wish you were a hyena, doesn't it?") But the asnwer never lies on fighting fire with fire, especially when you're trying to fight a torch with a matchstick (age). What I was merely saying in my previously posted comment was that we males have time on our sides, a luxury women do not have. Only a very, very few men will date a much older woman because she has money, but the same cannot be said for women, you've already proved that (cha-cha, sugar daddy, etc.)
FYI, if you believe in the Bible, Eve never .took an apple (it never specified what actual, fruit, it just said fruit.) Personally, I'm agnostic, so I think it's all just a fairy tale.
Live and let live! (and don't fall in love with me too soon (LOL)!
You're Welcome,
Dr. Martin
Revenge is best served cold. I've been cheated on, and I've cheated. I know what you are speaking is truth because I myself am plotting the ultimate revenge on my husband...
sexiladyhussla - love the SN! i wish you the best of luck as you plot away! like Ivana Trump said, "Don't get mad, get everything"
dr. M - i love you already! lol. you see, by reading my hub, you're reading an entertainment piece not a psychoanalysis. but i enjoyed reading your thoughts. clearly, i've struck a nerve as well considering you replied twice to my hub & comments. instead of enjoying the humor in it, you had to get a word in (lots of 'em) for man kind. i apologize for not getting genesis right, I'm buddhist, so I don't know the story, just little references here n there. i do comprehend the intricate dynamics of intimate relationships, but this hub was not intended to be about that. these are the games we play, both men & women... we lie, we cheat, we use one another, etc... and that is why I waited so long to commit myself legally to the right guy. for the record, if you ask anyone living in an urban area, men are considered tricks now-not johns. you may need to watch some spike lee movies or something to get up to date. lol. fyi... they wouldn't call them "cougers" if the old cat couldn't catch a rat (men). proof that the older the berry the sweeter the juice! or is it darker? i don't know, Im just in it for the chuckles. glad i could amuse you! thanks for making it interesting!
DAMN FELLAS... WHAT IS WITH ALL THE HOSTILITY? HATERS!!!!
LOOK, IF YA DON'T AGREE WITH WHAT I SAY THATS YOUR PROBLEM, I COULD CARELESS WHAT YOU THINK. THIS IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT, THERE ARE A MILLION OTHER HUBS OUT THERE, GO HATE ON THEM. OTHERWISE... KICK ROCKS!!!]
MOST OF THE MEN ARE JUST MAD BECAUSE NOW THAT YOU FOUND SOMEONE TO LOVE, IF YOU DON'T KEEP HER HAPPY THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES. IF YOU WANT TO KEEP A WOMAN,YOU NEED TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO KEEP HER BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T... SOMEONE ELSE WILL. YOU'VE ALL CHEATED, YOU'VE ALL STOLEN SOMEONE ELSE'S GIRL, SO IF YOU CAN DO IT... KNOW THAT WE CAN DO IT BETTER! IF THAT'S TOO MUCH FOR YOU TO HANDLE... BE GAY THEN AND LIE TO EACH OTHER!!!!!
Well it looks like I came into this one at the perfect time...impeccable! After reading this hub (which is excellent) and many of the comments I would like to hear your write up from the guys side. You have quick splurges here and there about the guys side of things, but if you could do the reverse article with the same psychological analysis...I think a lot of this "misunderstanding" may dissipate. Great hub, even made me a little worried because I thought you knew me personally (just kidding ;-)
I really enjoyed this article. And I can completely understand and sympathize with all those 'reasons' women cheat. That being said, cheating is wrong, regardless of the circumstances or 'reasons'.
If you're not happy in your relationship, then leave it. Why cause more pain, more drama. Plus, do you really want to be labelled a cheater?
Also, ALL men do NOT cheat. Not ALL men have stolen someone elses girl. That's not fair. There are many wonderful, intelligent, respectful men out there and I think it's time we, as women, take some of the responsibility for choosing the WRONG ones.
A list of excuses. One for any occasion. Men who cheat are scum, likewise women. Those who mess with married people doubly so because they are harming what children value most - their parents.
Women and men who don't cheat read this and know that there are scum out there, those who leave proken families, STDs and broken hearts because it's all about MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
An excuse is just that - a relection of a lack of principles, good parental guidance and a profound selfishness that can face up to the fact that those who cheat do so because they are garbage with no dignity, honour or respect for other human beings.
With the exception of abuse. Most of the reasons are self serving. Not surprising though. I have had experience with two cheating women and looking back I made a poor choice to date them. Both were spoiled, very selfish, sabotagers, immature. The one I was with for more than 5 years left for another only to try to reenter my life with a child after I became successfull. The short term relationship ended when I went into her phone to get my proof that she was sleeping around, im glad I did even though it was wrong, and I got tested after that. This was in my early twenties. It all boils down to whether the person is mature enough to understand that a real relationship is not a dream, it takes work, some of it will be good and some bad, some of it may be beyond anyone's control but you can always control your body and your choices. I have since only dated older women and I have been a lot happier, im in my early thirties now. Its funny they used to say that girls mature faster but in an ambiguous way. Now I know for sure what they meant. Bottomline is someone who cheats is probably in need of serious soul searching and flawed. I have always walked away with the exception of the long term in my younger days rather than cheat. They may not like me after I say I want out but I assure you its a lot less pain than me cheating.Doing the right thing is often hard, when it comes to those decisions I always ask myself if I want to look back on that moment with shame or pride. some people apparently cant think ahead or behind more than 5 minutes.
Just so you know it isn't the intitute of marriage it's the people. As for cheating, you can come up with whatever reason you like for the act but I'm here to tell you that there isn't any. A person cheats because they want to no other reason. I was married for 22 years and in that time my ex had cheated at least 4 times. She had sex with 3 , thought she was pregnant by 1, and lived with 1. {we separated for yr] I wasn't perfect by any means but what I can say with all honesty is that I've never lied to her or cheated. As a matter of fact we have been separated 10 years and have been divorced less than 6 months and I still haven't been with a woman emotionally or physically. It scares the he-- out of me.
If women cheat for the same reasons as men, is it fair to say that women should step up their game when a man cheats? Women complain about the playa/whore double standard, but never want to talk about the responsibility double standard. Men who cheat are dogs, while women who cheat get to blame their cheating on men.
Has it ever occurred to women that maybe they are treating their "cha-chas" better than they treat their husbands/boyfriends? The recurring theme in this article seems to be "If you won't, someone else will". However, women will say in the very next breath, "Why should I reward you for doing what you're supposed to do?"
- You tell us stuff like "Helping out around the house is a form of foreplay, BUT IT ISN'T". If it were, you wouldn't be on the phone with your mother while your husband is doing the dishes.
- You tell us that you're too tired for sex cause you had a hard day at work and we didn't help with the kids. However, you'll come home the next day from the same job, we take care of the kids, and after spending an hour online shopping, you're too tired again.
- You tell us that we need to pay more attention to you...and that another man will glady lend his shoulder for you to cry on. However, you're not crying on his shoulder about the same things. When was the last time your cha-cha had to listen to you fuss about the water bill? How many times have you and your other man talked about IRAs and Mutual Funds? How much time do you spend venting to him about your idiot boss? The only thing he is paying attention to is your dissatisfaction with your husband...THAT'S ALL HE CARES ABOUT. If only it were that easy for your husband...to listen to you comment about just one thing.
Out of the excitement of a new relationship, you'll give a boyfriend all the sex he can stand. Then tell him he needs to GROW UP and commit. Then you tell that committed husband he needs to step his game up and earn it. What was so special about committment if that doesn't earn it?
The fact of the matter is, women need to GROW UP and take responsibility for their own unhappiness. A lot of it comes from the simple fact that women aren't as appreciative of their husbands as they were when they were mere boyfriends. Everything that he does as a husband goes in the "supposed to" catagory, or the "you just want some" catagory. Whether we just want some or not, it's unfair to tell us we need to pay the cost to be the boss, then demonize us for asking for a receipt.
If you took the focus off yourselves for five minutes, you might realize that he's treating you at least 95% exactly like he did when you were dating. You'll also realize that you dropped about 5% yourselves.
I don't hate women, but I do think they're all crazy. There is no reason for rationalization for cheating. Cheating is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse differs from phyical abuse because abusing someone's feelings is, in itself an admission that the victim has feelings, and is human. However, it is still abuse. On an emotional abuse scale of 1 to 10 (one being the least damaging) I would place cheating at number 6. Although not as sinister as physical abuse or some of the more damaging emotional abuses, listing the reasons why women or men cheat is the emotional equivalent of a phyisically abusive man, saying "hell, she done deserved it, cause she done made me mad." or "She done didn't pay me no attention."
This list is ridiculous. Its an attempt to trivialize cheating or make it seem as if it is the victim's fault in some way. No matter what the reason someone has for emotionally abusing another, it is NOT the fault of the victim, and even if the abuse was some arbitrary reaction to some unknowing mistake that the victim made in the past, or because the victim's johnson wasn't big enough, or whatever silly reason, there is no mistake or reason that is deserving or causal of infidelity. If you don't like the way someone makes love to you, than you break up with him/her. It's is just that simple. Some people like to believe that they are extremely complex individuals, who are forced to lead lives wraught with dramatic impossible, decision-making. The love of a fellow human being is a precious gift. If you don't want it, respectfully decline and let somebody else have it. You don't have to trash it and batter it until is sulks and lumbers away.
Thank you to all the men who took the time to read & respond to this hub. With that being said, let me remind you that I didn't make the rules, I just play by them.
Women, most of us will only admit silently to ourselves, we love DRAMA! We live for the game, the chase, catch me if you can, the whole bit. We need it, we even pay top dollar for it and create jobs to keep it coming! Think Paparazis. Think gossip mags at the check out stand, TMZ, E!, Lifetime,etc.
Of course, if you're not content with yout partner, set that poor b@stard free, if he comes back, he's a sucker! If he doesn't, cry until he does!
Cheating is bad, we ALL know this. Since most individuals aspire to become a couple, it is much easier, and more exciting, to cheat. Think of all the gossip, all the high-fives between men, who gossip as much as women. men and women love the game, and cheating is a part of it.
We are ALL selfish. deny it all you want but men and women, alike, are selfish selfish selfish!
i won't respond to each comment i have so in the past, but i will say this...
men and women have to continually satisfy their partners in order to have a loving committed relationship with each other. there are no victims here, there are players, play or get played... it is what it is, baby!
As long as women say "you're supposed to", they'll never be satisfied. Boyfriends aren't "supposed to". I knew I shoulda stayed single.
Ladies, stop loving the drama and the game more than you love your men.
Oh, but there are victims. However, they are not the victims we first think of. The true victims are not the seemingly self-less, "suckers," as they have been described. The true victims are the playas themselves. These players are emulating a behavior taught to them by their father, their mother, or someone else that they loved and admired, someone who cheated on somebody and in some cases who cheated on the newly formed "player" back before he/she was a player, back when the player was an innocent lover.
These sublimations of infidelity and this laundry list of reasons why the cheated on are secretly to blame, are the fabric that make up one big psychological security quilt. They are a method that children of infidelity or that the cheated on use to make it seem like "Mommy didn't really hurt daddy." or to make it seem like the cheater that hurt them didn't really fall out of love with them, they were just "playing the game." So the cheated cover themselves in this cloak of emotionally dammaged patch-work, and they become cheaters themselves.
Instead of looking at life as if it were all one rap video, maybe we should see players for what they really are, victims who victimize and then blame those they've victimized for not becoming like them, "play or be played." How sad that so many people lump themselves into these pathetic categories. Because there is an alternative to being a fool playa and even an alternative to being a fool hata, its what's called a Lover. A Lover is actually the most self-ish of all individuals, because a Lover knows that if you are loving, love will be given back to you. A player is a Self-less idividual because they only get their own weak-ass game played back to them. And nobody really ever loves a player. They are infatuated with a player, they idolize a player, but nobody gets close enough to love the player. So it is the player who is the self-less victim. I don't hate players, so I'm not a hater either, I feel sorry for them. As long as one remains a Lover, in the face of all this infidelity, be it sexual or attitudial, he or she can never truly be played.
There is something about this hub that upsets the men... hmmm I wonder why?! LOL
men have always been the dominant players in the game of love, but now, women are stepping up to the plate... and the mens don't like it one bit!
It isn't how we were raised, personally, i was raised to cook clean take care of kids and serve my man and treat him like a king. very old school, but then i learned that the only person worthy of this much work is my husband. he wanted it so he put a ring on it! not my boyfriends, crushes or lovers. just the guy that signed on the dotted line.
look all around you fellas. from disney to soap operas, drama drama drama. there is little enphasis placed on the importance of FAMILY. with a mommy and a daddy. disney is the worst! all the little girls wanna be saved by a prince because they are all messed up because one parent is out of the picture or they are completely abandoned. scary, but the happy ending is quite appealing.
your daughters, at this very moment, are eating this stuff up. all the tv shows and cartoons. little resepect, no parental supervision because both parents gotta work to keep food on the table. etc. you get the picture. our society is all about sex in every other commercial you see on tv so teenage girls are giving it away like halloween candy! this is what's been created and accepted by our villiage. you know the one thta raises the kids.
so you know what, women are secretly waiting to be resacued. when we got you, well, even then, sometimes it feels like we still don't. we compete with a busy work day, video games, gambling, sports on tv, and whatever else you're into. you compete with house chores, kids, plus work and everything else we got going on.
so that little escape, for men and women, that stroke of the ego that hasn't been touched since courting days before the nuptuals, well to be frank... it feels good. thats why husbands and wives gotta stay on it so we aren't all messed up with divorce, then go and mess up our kid's lives with divorces too. think about it, when we were growing up, parents started getting divorced like crazy. in some cultures, second families pop up from time to time. in the old days, women stuck it out with their cheating husbands and put their kids in the middle of some other stuff. so you see.... DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA.
men and women have been exposed by their own families, their own experiences, plus what they see on TV and hear on the radio. i wrote about what i see, what i've heard, and what i've done and honestly, no one is perfect. no one is innocent.
I don't mind a woman stepping up to the plate...as long as she understands that only SHE decides which "pitches" she swings at. Cheating, leaving or working it out are all HER decision. If men aren't allowed to argue with the umpire when we strike out, the same should apply to women.
Vegaslove, women ALWAYS played the game as well as the men and as often maybe more, but now their more open about it. You ladies faught hard for the right to vote and be "a person" but as time went by you over stepped your bounds. Each gender has a place, men know theres but women don't. I don't mean to imply the we as men are more important than you its as I said, we know our place in this world. Women don't want to be women, they want to be both genders. We as men once had our own little "clubhouse" so to speak in pubs and taverns to go and relax bullshit etc. But you ladies couldn't let us have that you had to fight for the right to get in. Most didn't even want to go there its that they wanted the right to. You even wear our clothes 3 pc suits for example christ you even wear our underware styled for women. Is there anything you ladies can't let us call our own. If we were to wear ladies briefs what would we be labled? Try joining a womens club or enter a womens beauty pagent it isn't going to happen. WHITE MEN are definately on the extinction list. There isn't a man in this world that hasn't apologized to a women when having no idea why just to make her happy. How many women out there can say the same for their man? That list is short I gurantee. Even the bible teaches if you believe in it that women should remain 1 step behind man, when did the roles reverse answer, when we gave you the right to be a person. WHY do you choose to abuse it, I'll almost gurantee that if you ladies treated us men "as people" there would almost certainately be a drop in women being abused. Treat us as equals and see what happens, it couldn't be worse right?
Ladies, i have some news, 99% of men cheat and lie to women and emotionally abuse them. Fact. For a woman to find a man totally faithful to her for her lifetime is incredibly rare, i'm happy to say i am a rare breed of man that knows how to treat a woman, and i have been messed around by women all my life until now i have met my special lady. You women don't appreciate decent men, and being friends with a man first means nothing lol, cos when a man then starts having a sexual relationship with a girl he has been friends with, she thinks 'oh he's such a nice guy', he thinks with his penis and cheats, and yes that's 99% of men.
LOVED this article because it's so true! A lot of parts are hard to believe, but it's so true.
This sounds a lot like the excuses men use when they cheat. I reference the website Oprah, which says the same identical things when a man cheats. Or is there a double standard for a women's infidelity?
i only want to say that my husband is a wonderful human being,i have though about cheating on him,maybe because i am a 51 yr old wife married 27 yrs to him, love him and will always love him,i always fantasize lately about a lover that will make love to me for about 5 to 6 hours and the i say to myself oh well after the physical sex where do i go?so women upthere keep your husbands happy love them for what they really are and enjoy them while you have them i do not know, invent something in your sex life,maybe a game i do not know but do it,it will save your marriage and love your kids and be there for them all the way,love.
CARMEN
Soooooo true loved reading this article, its kind of hard for guys to hear this but this is very accurate.
this is a good art,touch on some good points.but were does that leave men,that if we not perfect our wifes will cheat,doesnt give us much for tha future.where has tha values gone,when its okay for a women too give up her body like its a peace of meat.i hope tha queens dont thinks this is way too handle things.....
wow. this is sad. me me me. let you tell it the world revolves around the way a man makes you feel. how small.
he cheated, she cheated, you feel bad, i feel like i lost, i feel like i won.
the majority of you guys/gals sound like little kids who just discovered their private parts and how they can interact with others.
is this what life is all about? social power struggles while trying to invoke lust? why not just quit dating?
oh i forgot, even though you sprew venow later, you crave male attention now.........
i'm glad i'm not a slave to my d--k or my ego.
Men are tired of being women emotional and material slaves.know wonder why women have minds of little children and can never grow up.of course you get hit on because trying so hard to put on your makeup and revealing clothes tells the world what you looking for so we play the weak ass game with you.its funny women never have anything to offer other than sex cause that is all they came come with and needless to say looks.need to grow your sorry petty minded asses up and act mature and contribute something equal or something that exceeds to a relationship instead of trying to use somebody all the dam time.why don't you repair the car,fix the house..etc lazy ass cat!
Women use 'reason, intuition and emotion while men...' You messed up before I even walked into the 'door' of your little treatise on bashing men.
Reason and emotion are like oil and water...they don't mix. So You are saying that women are masters of using both together successfully? When women make silly statements like that it only shows that many women, including yourself 'dont use logic'. Emotion and logic don't go together. Also if you silly women decided to choose 'paul-pure heart' instead of 'billy-bad-ass' the majority of the time, You girls wouldn't be so bitter, because You would be in emotionally stable relationships.
When womens' relationships go wrong, many of them blame it all on men. If You get into a relationship with a aweful man, you women need to start looking at yourselves. You didn't need to choose 'billy-bad-ass' in the first place.
And if women were so good at using 'reason' and 'logic' then how come many abused women keep running right back into their abusive lover's arms time and time again. There is no reason nor logic about that.
Omg u say "why can't women sleep with just as many guys" here's why.....for men its harder to get laid,we have to try..its a game,and very rewarding when we succed. Now for girls,all you have to do is open your legs and 99% of guys would come fuck you in a second...what's so hard about that? So that's why men can sleep with chicks and be praised for it
Men and women are the same. And that is the truth. Saying men and women are different is a lie, and that is how wars start and perpetuate. Men and women fighting are like nations fighting, each side will tell lies about the other side. If you're a soldier one one side and when the war is over and you go on the other side, the other country with a different race and a different language, you will see that their propaganda posters are identical to your propaganda posters. You'll be surprised that the other side has a poster called "Loose lips, sink ships!" too. Or "We're only fight in defense, they are aggressors". "They started it." "It's their fault."
Fighting people are like this: A tiger looks in a mirror and thinks it sees another tiger "getting in its face" being the aggressor. It gets frightened, then retaliate against its reflection, not knowing that it is its reflection. It snarls, the reflection snarls back. It goes to war with its reflection because it's not smart to know that the mirror is its reflection.
Please get smarter people. I know this is true from playing tennis, ping-pong, and chess, especially chess where you play on one side one day and the other side the next day and back again. Playing reflection games like these helps you to understand other people and yourself.
Men and women are same, that should be the starting point of understanding each other, and understanding ourselves. And stop telling lies about other sides, other people, we're the same!
From chess. White and Black are the same but look different. White's movement of a Bishop is neutralized by Black's movement of a Knight. They are seemingly different but they complementary and are reflections of each other. Just like the sexes. Equal, complementary, different, but the same.
Just like how plastic chess sets are made.
10 The model makes the mold
20 the mold makes the model.
30 goto 10
Just like our physiology, just like our reproduction.
Simply ridiculous just because you can't get a girl, to climax every time. Doesn't mean she will stray. That's so false im with the best women Ive ever had and she's got this set of things called morals. Not with the new school cheat a lot program. Men and women mix together fine if you both have an damn brain. Grow up and stop writing articles sounds like your out of touch and out of mind.
VegaLove, to a happily married man like me, your article sounds a little bit TOO agressive, or defensive should I say.. yes, woman need to be the center of their partner's universe, and my wife IS that for me, and hopefully we'll be faithful to eachother for life, I know I will. Your article is aimed at a different market than long-time happily married couples. Also, your demands a little bit exagerated. You're claiming that my wife is entitled to start flirting with other guys, just cuz I didn't have time (it can happen!) to buy her a special gift on some anniversary - well this is exagerated. If you honestly think this, that means you're just a shallow, overprecious tart. REAL LOVE means understanding and compromising, from both sides. And BIG THANKS to Dr.Martin for putting you in your place - I saw you had to make your rebound after his reply, luckily for you, cuz he made you look really stupid.
Man!!! Imagine if I guy demanded all these things in this post...how many women would be willing to put up with it????
many women cheat today because they seem to be tired of staying with the same man and want someone new in their life. the sad part is a lot of them today have children, and they are not thinking about their kids. they are also hurting their husbands and they do not even care, since they are looking for a big change in their life. what is worse today is women leaving their husbands for other women.
Are you black?
Wonderful Article.
many women that are married seem to cheat because they fall out of love with their husbands, and have a need to be with another man instead. very sad, if you ask me. this is the reason why the divorce rate is so high today. it is even worse, when they have children. years ago, women and men stayed together and whatever problems they had were worked out.
If she leaves her man, she will regret it for life! period! women always come back because when they stray off they cant find what there looking for because you cant find happiness, you make it! it takes two to tango and if she leaves then she wasent worth it in the first place! mine left me, yeah I was hurt but 9 months later, Im having a thrill of meeting so many women, I have five right now! keep straying off ladies maybe I can get up to 20 in a few months! there's more women out there then men and a lot of them have mental problems and baggage! im having a field day.. if your leaving your man after a long term relationship YOUR STUPID! ....LOL you change how you live and your life style not your partner! most of these strays will never get married again and they will run back and wont be excepted! there all online blogging about the mistake they made and how they realized they loved there partner after the damage was done! there crying, hoping and waiting for something that will never be! some wait years while there ex is already married to some one new and there still waiting! its called (love flux) if you dont know what love flux is, go stray away and in three to six months you'll get the wake up call and fall in to love flux! silly stupid women..lol! wake up!
Well i cheaed on my wife becuase she cheated on me..and to be frank
she was the worst wife ever...women put of with a lot ha, most women complain, most men put up with a lot of shit from women but society tell us we have to take it, so now thanks to your article I no longer feel guilty for cheating on my wife I no longer care and I will continue,no matter how much she continues to cry, whats good for the goose is good for the gander right.
as a straight man, i was married to two filthy whores that cheated on me. i never cheated on them. i was very happy, and i was a very caring and loving husband that never mistreated them. i was just too good for them. it seems today that women cannot stay with one man, and need a variety of different men to please them. very sad and true. why?, i do not know. years ago, women were much more committed. times were certainly different, than now. my aunt and uncle are starting their sixty fourth year together, that shows you how committed they are to one another. sure they had problems like every married couple, but they always worked it out. and i always tell them how lucky they are, to have met one another. now that i go out a lot, i seem to meet the very nasty women with their no good attitude. this is the reason why it is so hard meeting good women today, especially the ones that will not cheat
women who cheat, will always be whores.
Vega, nice article. I think it's honest. Some of the fellas commenting here obviously feel threatened. We all change in our 40's and Doc Martin's an ass. There are just as many men who turn into fat old slobs in their 40's. As a single 45 year old woman, I am, for the first time, enjoying a 34 y/old lover. I ain't ready for the retirement home and though I know perfectly wonderful men my age who are married, I haven't seen much out there worth much on the market. Bravo to you for your spirit.
madmac...sigh. women had to step up (or should I say, "man up") because so many men laid down and stopped being men. Far too many men have turned their g'friends and/or wives into their mothers---a deal we didn't sign up for. Not to say ALL men and ALL women are bad people with no morals, etc. There are GOOD men, there are BAD men, and there are GOOD women and there are BAD women.
This article is so stupid. Ladies if you are cheating on your man chances are he did something bad to you. And if he did something bad to you he probably dont really care about you anyways. So if you cheating on him he dont care. He probably just using you too. But if it makes you feel better to make yourself look like a woman who cant keep her legs closed then go out and have sex with other men. If a guy really cares about you he will treat you right! Otherwise we dont care what you do.
my two cents
women who cheat are worthless and brainless, just saying.
first you women need to educate yourself a lot better, since many of you are so very uneducated today. second of all, many of you women today cannot commit to just one man. god forbid, if you knew how. that is why, so many of you women are just very trashy now. you women need to read a book on how to be committed to just one, and only one man. sounds to me, many women need a variety of different men for each day of the week. so very sad, that many of you women are such LOW LIFE LOSERS today.
ladies - don't let a misandrist asexual dictate to you.
This article is geared towards college students or people in their mid 20s at best or people who are dating around.
I think Dr. Martin hit the nail on the head. Women are losing race with time MUCH quicker than men. Men on the other hand lose stamina with age faster than women do. Nobody has it better, they just have it different.
Like it has been said, always put interest of loved one before yours and love will come to you.
"That is why we always tend to have a "rebound guy," you know, the guy after the serious long-term relationship, before the string of one night stands and mini-relationships that will eventually lead to the new and improved relationship with someone better then you. "
If women are really this slutty, then they shouldn't be surprised when nobody wants to marry them.
To the fellas out there who got game. Last time I checked..the ratio is still 8:1 there are always more fish in the sea. And even though God gave women cleverness. He also gave them a heart. Which can always be broken. I like the article but I have to keep it real. There are way more complaining women out there about no good men then there are about men that get it and bounce. IJS
Thank you for that! I'm never getting married. Its just not worth it. I'll keep a girlfriend or 2 so when one wants to leave I'll already have my rebound. After reading this a serious relationship is and has alway been a bad idea. Guess rap music was telling the truth. Forget females get money. I'll buy my happiness..
Why should women be held to a standard that most men don't adhere to themselves?
Women - cheat when/if you want to, because 99% of men will do it to you, so why shouldn't we? We want to as well, but don't because of the double standard.
Do it, just be clever and secretive.
Leyla, most men do not cheat!
@ Gavi the 45 year old... how can u be dating a 34 year old, 'n still call urself single? hehehe even at ur age, u still play this mind games...honey,that;s not a good sign. i do not believe ur 34 year old will be impressed by such a comment from u. instead, i feel ur threatend by the writings of dr. martin cuz' it is the naked truth. more women in their twenties and thirties will sleep with men older than them by 10 years or more, but how many guys in the same age range will do that? i wonder.nwe all can answer this questions, so consider urself lucky 'n stop complaining.
@ author of this article... there are obviously reasons why people do things just like there is a reason why u wrote this article... probably u made the wrong choices by dating the " bad guys " 'n was probably cheated on more than 10 times... my speculation. but if u look at all contributions made by females here, some of them do not agree with u, for the simple fact that, not everyone is the same. this means not everyone will react to a situation like another. i am not a relationship expert, but from ur writings, ur r not either. ur simple expressing ur frustrations of disappointed past relations in a disastrous. i call it a bad advice. a womans body is the temple of the holy spirit 'n not a sex tool. seriously, u sound more of a relationship cheater, who is trying to convery her cheating strategies to others. who ever told u a woman who cheat cannot be cought if she doesn't want to? don't fool urself. u might claim these r the reasons why women cheat, but again, u fail to understand that women by their very nature are ADVENTUROUS people. they like to try other things and will definitely want to try other guys. like someone said, the audience of this article mostly women in their twenties and some thirties. most mature women will snub this. as others have mentioned, whether we like or not, there will be issues in a relationship for the simple fact that no one is perfect. women who feel ur strategies mentioned above will be the best way to gain happiness, then they r wrong. now, we understand y divorce rates r increasing as years fly by. one advice, stop complaining all the time and learn to appreciate the little u have, cuz when u loose it, only then will u know how big that little thing was.
Great article!
Princessa Level 3 Commenter 3 years ago
What an accurate picture you show. I back you back 100%. As a woman I do not think all this sounds horrible, it is the naked truth and men still love us for that!
As you put it... if Eve convinced Adam to eat the apple... what can we not dowhen we really want to???